I know this is easier said than done. But, Sadness is not impossible to manage. It might be a really hard day going on, or one of those tough phases of life when everything is coloured grey. In EVERY circumstance, there is definitely a certain way that will make you feel better. Help yourself out of this loneliness by following these suggestions. Here are 7 things that you should try to do when you are feeling sad and low:
1. Talk Out About It
There might be inner conflicts going on about various matters of life. Everybody’s life is not an open book. Let’s admit it – we all have our own secrets. But sometimes, we have to let go of our inhibitions and talk about what is disturbing the soul. There are a set of people who really love you and will be ready to listen to you even if you wake them up in the middle of the night. That person might be your sibling, your parent, an old buddy, an understanding colleague or even a new friend. Just talk about your sad feelings once and you will feel much lighter. When emotions take the form of words, they lift you up. Maybe you will improvise your own thoughts after you and the other person have heard it out. So try talking about it even if that takes a lot of courage.
2. It’s OK To Be Sad
You are not alone. There are people sailing in the same boat everywhere. I mean almost everyone faces gloomy days with life’s ups and downs. So do not feel guilty about feeling sad. Thoughts like ‘ Why am I not able to come out of this negativity’ and ‘I am sick of my sadness’ are completely normal until you are able to fight them back. Sadness hits almost any one. Let it be short lived and try to combat it with a clear positive attitude that will help you steer back to happiness.
3. Try To Look Out For Small Joys
Big things can make you sad, but smaller things are needed for bliss. It may be playing with your child or pet, admiring the beauty of a sunrise or basking in your garden lawn. These are a very few simple pastimes which can settle a chaotic mind and calm down our nerves. When sadness grips us, we get this negativity surrounding us from all directions. These small joys then work as tiny escapes. They slowly heal our body and mind and make us more prepared to face a tough situation.
4. Pen Down Your Thoughts
Try to maintain a small diary or notebook. Many people have the art of expression in writing. It gives a vent to their thoughts and can work wonders in sadder moments. If something has been pricking your mind and leaves you perturbed, try to write about it. There is no need to be an organised and meticulous writer. It could be as simple as this. “I never realised staying away from home would make me feel so bad. I miss mom’s handmade desserts. I miss my cozy and messy room where I had the liberty to stay up whole night finishing a novel. I am simply don’t like this lonely office accommodation. Is my job worth continuing? I wish I could plan a short vacation back home which would leave me refreshed and more decisive.”
5. Indulge In Your Favourites
It is perfectly fine to go shopping if that makes you feel better! List out some of your favourite things and DO THEM. Go for a movie if you are a movie freak. Settle down with a hot coffee and a book if you need some ‘ME’ time. Bite into your favourite dessert if you have a real sweet tooth. Go for a long walk in the open, sing out loud, try to meet an old friend, or anything else which allows you to break the cycle of sadness and loneliness. There is no need to feel guilty about this indulgence at all.
This does not necessarily mean a detailed cleaning of your wardrobe. But YES, things in daily routine should be organised and planned. It helps in managing your time better and makes you happier. It might also prevent you from jumping to immature decisions.
Prioritisation can be the first step towards organising life. Decide certain personal targets that you think are important to clean up the physical and emotional mess. Start early and do not work it out too much as that might stress you out.
7. Take Care Of Yourself
When we are engulfed by sad feelings, we tend to ignore our body and forget to take care of our self. As said, ‘A healthy body is home to a healthy mind’. Eat well, sleep well and think peacefully. That will help you to think with a clear mind. Happiness always flows in when your body is happy with you.
Sadness is never there for always. But yes, guiding the mind to a happier place can be tough when there are clouds of gloom hanging over. Making an effort to move out of the situation is the first step towards happiness. So, move on and seek out for joy, it is also looking for you.